Facebook
Does Facebook go against being tznius?
"The often overlooked consequence of posting every (or main) details of one’s life on Facebook is a loss of modesty, of dignity, of preservation of the inner self. If every idea, photo, experience, is shared with (hundreds of) friends, what remains of our inner core, our interior selves? Judaism teaches modesty as a way of being – not just in dress but in attitude. It’s how we speak – the tone, the words, the content. It’s how we carry ourselves. It’s how we guard what’s private, what’s special, what’s unique. It’s the sense that the life of the soul takes precedence over the life of the body. It’s the opposite of Facebook exposure. ...
But I do know that when we have something special and precious, we want to preserve it. We put fences around our fancy homes and hide our fine jewelry in our safes. Fences help us avoid temptation."
- Facebook Overexposure by Emuna Braverman (Aish.com)
facebook is overrated, check out frumsefer! :p (Age 21)
Why do you consider it overrated?
I was scrolling through this and I found this topic very interesting. Facebook has obviously chanegd the way we communicate and I think in a way you can say it has challenged Tzniuss to a certain extent. The kind of clothing, makeup, jewelery etc that we wear serves, in my opinion, two main purposes: to make a statement and, in doing so validate ourselves. When people compliment us we feel good, we feel noticed and thus we feel validated. I think we can relate to FB in the same way. When we post something on our status or when we put up pictures, we want people to comment so that we feel that we are connected to something and someone. Because of this, I think it is so important to watch what we say and post on FB. I think it’s a huge challange but we have to ask ourselves, before posting anything, if we are trying to call attention to oursleves, if this attention is warranted and if there will be negative consequences. I think we often post on FB stuff that is simply inappropriate and we forget that an average of 300 people see what we post. -Age 22
Why do you think this happens? Do “secretly” want all 300 people reading this?
Do you think having a Facebook account is un-tznius like? Do you think NOT having an account is “ancient”, “traditional”, “ghetto-izing”?
I had a Facebook account a few years ago, which I closed. When you close your Facebook account, you have the option of downloading all your pictures, messages etc. in a file to save on your computer.
I was just recently looking at that file and I saw a Note I had published (that was visible to all my 'friends.') It was called '25 Things About Me.' It was fun to write and I remember that I did 'secretly' want everyone to read it–including acquaintances, friend's brothers etc. It was just funny, silly, random things people may not know about you.
Reading it now, a few years later, I can't believe I published that for over a hundred people to read! What was I thinking! With Facebook, people get desensitized to respecting other people's and their own privacy. (Age 26)
Great point! Thanks for sharing!
But I do know that when we have something special and precious, we want to preserve it. We put fences around our fancy homes and hide our fine jewelry in our safes. Fences help us avoid temptation."
- Facebook Overexposure by Emuna Braverman (Aish.com)
facebook is overrated, check out frumsefer! :p (Age 21)
Why do you consider it overrated?
I was scrolling through this and I found this topic very interesting. Facebook has obviously chanegd the way we communicate and I think in a way you can say it has challenged Tzniuss to a certain extent. The kind of clothing, makeup, jewelery etc that we wear serves, in my opinion, two main purposes: to make a statement and, in doing so validate ourselves. When people compliment us we feel good, we feel noticed and thus we feel validated. I think we can relate to FB in the same way. When we post something on our status or when we put up pictures, we want people to comment so that we feel that we are connected to something and someone. Because of this, I think it is so important to watch what we say and post on FB. I think it’s a huge challange but we have to ask ourselves, before posting anything, if we are trying to call attention to oursleves, if this attention is warranted and if there will be negative consequences. I think we often post on FB stuff that is simply inappropriate and we forget that an average of 300 people see what we post. -Age 22
Why do you think this happens? Do “secretly” want all 300 people reading this?
Do you think having a Facebook account is un-tznius like? Do you think NOT having an account is “ancient”, “traditional”, “ghetto-izing”?
I had a Facebook account a few years ago, which I closed. When you close your Facebook account, you have the option of downloading all your pictures, messages etc. in a file to save on your computer.
I was just recently looking at that file and I saw a Note I had published (that was visible to all my 'friends.') It was called '25 Things About Me.' It was fun to write and I remember that I did 'secretly' want everyone to read it–including acquaintances, friend's brothers etc. It was just funny, silly, random things people may not know about you.
Reading it now, a few years later, I can't believe I published that for over a hundred people to read! What was I thinking! With Facebook, people get desensitized to respecting other people's and their own privacy. (Age 26)
Great point! Thanks for sharing!